Monday, May 01, 2006

Without the Pain

Most of my life I have lived with acute chronic pain. I've learned to make friends with it, to know it as a part of me. I don't usually talk about it. What's the point? People have the wrong response. They want to fix it, or fix me, or worse they feel sad. They don't need to feel my pain for me. It's enough that I feel it. It's enough that it's here with me.

It helps me understand how some folks can carry their anger. I don't know sometimes, who I would be without the pain.
--me strauss Letting me be

16 comments:

Anonymous said...

Everyone carries some sort of pain with them. Anger is a sort of pain. The kind of person you are might be affected by the kind of pain you carry with you.

"ME" Liz Strauss said...

Hi Liz
What a great observation. I think that you've got something there. At least I can carry medication for my pain. Folks who are angry can't.

Anonymous said...

Very well said. I can completely relate - not to your pain, but to the idea of not needing to speak of of it to others. It is my pain, and my pain alone. Go get your own. =)

"ME" Liz Strauss said...

Hi Travis,
Yeah, It's bad enough having the pain. Talking about it doesn't make it better. You're right . . . go get your own. :)

Trée said...

Sitting in my chair in deep listening mode. I'm here if you need me, otherwise I'll just enjoy the tea and cookies. Peace to you my friend.

Anonymous said...

Things like that will only make us stronger. My parents used to tell us kids to embrace the hard moments in life. They'll make us stronger.

Instead of complaining we found ways to work new, strang and sometimes terrifying situations to our advantage. It's all about looking at something from the 'right' side. Or maybe I should say 'positive' side.

It takes a strong person to not let a weakness over come them, or make it into an excuse. I respect those people.

Anonymous said...

I know exactly what you're talking about.

"ME" Liz Strauss said...

Hello Tree,
Thank you for listening.
Tea and cookies are enough.

"ME" Liz Strauss said...

Hi Jennifer,
I truly believe that it is the hard things in life that make our character. All of the bright things only make us lighter, but the hard things make us beautiful.

"ME" Liz Strauss said...

Hi Amy,
Thank you. It's nice to know that others understand what I'm saying.
Liz

Anonymous said...

>"I don't know sometimes, who I would be without the pain."

Have you thought that, maybe, you would be the same person you are now?

E

"ME" Liz Strauss said...

Sometimes I think that and sometimes I wonder.

Anonymous said...

Writing about pain can be a pain in itself. LOLZ!!
Yes, you seem to get the exact wrong response from most people--but I guess they mean well.

How one carries his or her disposition or misfortune says a lot about the person.

"ME" Liz Strauss said...

You are right taorist,
People--or this person--don't need to share their pain to make it real, Doesn't seem to be the same with joy though, does it?

Anonymous said...

Wow, bluesky Liz. That's a great point.

But, Liz: Medicine for anger is available over the counter and behind the barn.

"ME" Liz Strauss said...

Ah Doug,
You are wise beyond dog years.