Monday, May 01, 2006

Without the Pain

Most of my life I have lived with acute chronic pain. I've learned to make friends with it, to know it as a part of me. I don't usually talk about it. What's the point? People have the wrong response. They want to fix it, or fix me, or worse they feel sad. They don't need to feel my pain for me. It's enough that I feel it. It's enough that it's here with me.

It helps me understand how some folks can carry their anger. I don't know sometimes, who I would be without the pain.
--me strauss Letting me be

16 comments:

Bluesky_Liz said...

Everyone carries some sort of pain with them. Anger is a sort of pain. The kind of person you are might be affected by the kind of pain you carry with you.

ME Strauss said...

Hi Liz
What a great observation. I think that you've got something there. At least I can carry medication for my pain. Folks who are angry can't.

Travis Morgan said...

Very well said. I can completely relate - not to your pain, but to the idea of not needing to speak of of it to others. It is my pain, and my pain alone. Go get your own. =)

ME Strauss said...

Hi Travis,
Yeah, It's bad enough having the pain. Talking about it doesn't make it better. You're right . . . go get your own. :)

Trée said...

Sitting in my chair in deep listening mode. I'm here if you need me, otherwise I'll just enjoy the tea and cookies. Peace to you my friend.

Jennifer said...

Things like that will only make us stronger. My parents used to tell us kids to embrace the hard moments in life. They'll make us stronger.

Instead of complaining we found ways to work new, strang and sometimes terrifying situations to our advantage. It's all about looking at something from the 'right' side. Or maybe I should say 'positive' side.

It takes a strong person to not let a weakness over come them, or make it into an excuse. I respect those people.

Amy said...

I know exactly what you're talking about.

ME Strauss said...

Hello Tree,
Thank you for listening.
Tea and cookies are enough.

ME Strauss said...

Hi Jennifer,
I truly believe that it is the hard things in life that make our character. All of the bright things only make us lighter, but the hard things make us beautiful.

ME Strauss said...

Hi Amy,
Thank you. It's nice to know that others understand what I'm saying.
Liz

Anonymous said...

>"I don't know sometimes, who I would be without the pain."

Have you thought that, maybe, you would be the same person you are now?

E

ME Strauss said...

Sometimes I think that and sometimes I wonder.

taorist said...

Writing about pain can be a pain in itself. LOLZ!!
Yes, you seem to get the exact wrong response from most people--but I guess they mean well.

How one carries his or her disposition or misfortune says a lot about the person.

ME Strauss said...

You are right taorist,
People--or this person--don't need to share their pain to make it real, Doesn't seem to be the same with joy though, does it?

Doug said...

Wow, bluesky Liz. That's a great point.

But, Liz: Medicine for anger is available over the counter and behind the barn.

ME Strauss said...

Ah Doug,
You are wise beyond dog years.