Managing in the world of other people means making appointments in time. It means saying I’ll meet you here. I’ll call then. We’ll have a lunch and discuss our next move. Those are plans that are definite unless they are changed. Aren’t they? They're the truth when they are said, but then sometimes. The truth changes.
I understand that sometimes new information, or more consideration, or even a change of heart makes a person decide that such a plan is no longer a good idea. That is when the truth changes. The truth I’ll meet you, I’ll call you, We’ll have lunch, is no longer true.
The problem is when the person who has changed the truth doesn’t communicate that change.
So I wonder. Has the truth changed or did the person forget? Did the truth change for a reason that I should know? Has it changed for good or momentarily?
Some folks automatically update the truth when it when it changes. Other do not.
Asking about a change with the second group usually falls flat. If they cannot update the truth, it seems they cannot respond at all.
The void upsets me. I feel I believed someone valued and respected me and instead I find it was an empty shell who gave me nice words that unraveled themselves. That's uncomfortable, especially when I never get to find out what the the truth was, or is, or might have been.
We learn as a child what a plan and a promise it. We learn in business to value our word. When we don't keep it, what does it say that we think about the person we gave it to?
I know of people who don't do as they say or let others know that they cannot. Is it an act of cowardice to avoid an act of telling the truth? Or is it an action of a time when time is like a time warp and thought are of thinking and not of people?
I'm confused that bravery is in short supply to people made of the same stuff as stars.
I'm confused that people, even me, can think of thinking more than thinking of other people.
But then I'm confused a lot.
That seems to be a truth that doesn't change.
−me strauss Letting me be