I have always assumed that I'm supposed to like the people that I work with and the people I work for. It has had an amazing impact on my behavior. I really had no idea. In the strangest way that hidden assumption has lead to approval seeking actions.
It never crossed my mind that people might be operating on a premise other than that.
Until this morning. This morning, while considering a meeting I had, I thought of whether the person liked me and then, I thought it really didn't matter. The project was scheduled. This was the call I'd asked for to get his opening input. I'd ask the questions to get the information I needed.
Suddenly a wealth, a flood of knowledge, came washing over me. No wonder I had trouble beginning new business relationships. That's what I should have been doing all along, talking
business plain and simple, direct.
It was an interesting fruitful conversation. I’m a little stunned at how professional I felt.
I had been getting in my own way all of these years. What the heck had I been thinking?
−me strauss Letting me be