Thursday, October 20, 2005

Loud Voices

Sometime the ones who yell the loudest win.
Often what they're yelling isn't nice.
If they're yelling bad things about you, remember this.
Yelling the loudest doesn’t make them right.
Sadly yelling back is no defense.
Speaking quietly doesn't get heard.
They say time heals all wounds
and wounds all heels.
Sometimes I sure hope that is true.

—me strauss Letting me be

28 comments:

Kelley Bell said...

When they yell, it means that your voice is being heard, and that's a good thing.

Who cares if they disagree?

It's better if they do. It puts you in league with all the great thinkers of history.

It shows that you can think outside of the box.

"A [person] without enemies is not worth knowing."

The critics are just sheep.

ME Strauss said...

HI Kelly,
Welcome back. You're totally right as usual. Getting their attention is the first thing. Knowing their attention is not the point is the second. Standing on our two feet is the purpose of being.

Good points all.
smiles,
Liz

Lance said...

There are times, what we do to distract truth is the where the direction we should be looking for fault or blame.

ME Strauss said...

HI Lance,
Yes I do find that people who find themselves in the cold often do so because they were looking in the wrong direction.

smiles,
Liz

Jennifer said...

Yelling...usually yelling isn't good :)

Yelling brings back childhood memories when I'd hear JENNIFER MARIE HOFMANN get down here right NOW! Which usually followed a very entertaining (for the viewer) round of my mom or dad yelling at me for the (I admit) thing I'd done wrong.

I could yell back, but they were always louder and they always won--parent's are always right afterall (or at least when you're an eight year old).

You know the line that struck me most? Speaking quietly doesn't get heard. It annoys me more when someone doesn't take a stand. Right or wrong everyone has an opinion on the matter. And the least you should do...the least you deserve is to make sure your viewpoint is also heard. (ofcourse that's a general statement...such things do depend on the situation).

ME Strauss said...

Jennifer,
Your strong feelings on the subject come through. You have made your point without yelling, or I might add, saying my name in all capital letters. I agree we should a make our point.

Though I do have to say there are time at which I have no opinion than leans more toward either side of an argument.

smiles,
Liz

Cheryl said...

Well, everyone is right.
Except that when I read this it evoked those awful moments when the attack is personal and unexpected and you don't actually know whats hit you. The times that really shift the sands under your feet, and yes, yelling back only makes you look just as silly and if you have any sense you regret it, but knowing that doesn't seem to factor, at the time.
I love this piece - it solves nothing but causes thought about everything.

ME Strauss said...

Hi Cheryl,
You actually read it the way I wrote it, but I'm so interested in where everyone took this piece too.

The dicussion in this group are so invigorating drawing from all of our experiences.

I would stand with you.

smiles,
Liz

easywriter said...

Squeeky wheels get the grease. :o)

And actually when dealing with an irate and yelling speaker, it does help to talk in a quiet and soothing tone, they have to hush a little themselves to hear you.

But I may be talking through my hat, who knows?

easywriter said...

I liked Cheryls response too. She is a careful and insightful reader.

ME Strauss said...

Hi Easy,
Nice to see you around here.

I guess it depends whether they are talking to you or about you whether talking quietly works.

Knowing inside that the loudness of their voices doesn't make them right is what matters to me.

smiles,
Liz

ME Strauss said...

Yes, Easy, I agree. I'm a fan of Cheryl's comments and her writing as well.

toadman said...

Loud voices suck.
How's that for a deep intellectual analasys?
HA!
But also, you know, a well thought out and perfectly timed quiet response usually does get heard I've found.

ME Strauss said...

Hi Toadmaster,
Yeah loud voices make my head hurt.
Deeply.:)

I agree that a well-thought answer at least gets their attention. Sometimes it also scares the pants off 'em.
smiles,
Liz

fineartist said...

Sort of what goes around comes around, karma and all of that good stuff, yes, let’s hope it is so.

Very frustrating to be in a situation where you are the one being yelled at or about. One consolation, to go along with the fact that they aren’t always right, is that most squeaky wheels are “known” for being just that, a squeaky wheel.

Thankfully many people DO consider the source first before they make judgments.

ME Strauss said...

Yeah, Lori, you're right.
The good guys know that the squeakers squeak and the yellers yell and the bad guys just go around saying bad things.

Some times the right answer is to stand up and say SHUT UP and sometimes the right answer is just to ignore them.

smiles,
Liz

fineartist said...

So true, to stand up and be heard above the yeller. To speak for those who can’t find the words in protest of what the yeller is saying. I only just now got it. Slow but sure, Kelley, I know what Kelley is saying now, gaaaaaaa, it took me awhile. I’m not myself.

ME Strauss said...

I hear you Lori,
You just brought the whole discussion full circle.

It's hard to be the great thinker though. To be worth knowing is also to be worth throwing rocks at is what she is saying. OUCH.

smiles,
Liz

Bluesky_Liz said...

Great post.

Sometimes you just can't win. I prefer to deal with yellers than sneaky backstabbers.

fineartist: Thankfully many people DO consider the source first before they make judgments.

I wish that was true at my workplace. But some people are good at manipulation.

ME Strauss said...

Liz,
You're right the yellers are much better than the sneaky backstabbers. I've met too many of them along my way as well. You're dead before you know that you've met them. :)

I'm thinking that's primarily a women's game. . . .

Liz

Bluesky_Liz said...

>>I'm thinking that's primarily a women's game. . . .

I think so too.

ME Strauss said...

I thought you might agree.

jac said...

Came through Tanda's.
True that time heels all wounds, but that word 'hope' sucks... as all 'hopes' turn out to be lies.

ME Strauss said...

Hi Jac,
Welcome. You write well from what I read at your blog. I'm delighted you came to visit.

On this one we don't agree. I'd venture to say just from what you commented, that I've had more experience with hope than you have and not all hopes are lies. Not by a long shot I can attest.

Sorry to hear that your experience has taught you otherwise. I hope that changes for you. :)

smiles,
Liz

jac said...

Well ! I won't be converted easily. :):):)

ME Strauss said...

Jac,
No need to convert for me.
Just wishing you good things in your life.:)

smiles,
Liz

Kelley Bell said...

Not all hope turns out to be lies.

Just the ones that we try to hard to control.

Hope needs to be more of a feeling that is open to possibility, instead of a script that must manifest into verbatum reality.

Hope is the smile of a child,
The breeze at your back,
and
the light of each brand new day.

Awe and wonder are all about you, even now...

You just need the eyes of an innocent to see it.

Namaste Brother.

(That means "The divine in me honors the divine in you, and our spirits recognize that we are all ONE.)

Have you seen a movie called "What the bleep?"

It will blow your mind, or atleast I HOPE it will.

ME Strauss said...

Kelley,
Your writing makes me smile with its hope and its poetry. Thank you for bringing your heart and your wisdom to this question. We so love it when the conversation runs deep.

I've not seen the movie, but I'll look for it.

I appreciate you more than you know.

smiles,
Liz